Blame

Sometimes adults blame children for their own parental shortcomings and stresses. This is not healthy for children or adults. Children should not be held responsible for nor made to feel responsible for parental stresses.

Sometimes adults blame themselves (or their partners) for the behavior problems of their children. While it is true adults may have contributed in some way to the problem, kicking yourself (or your partner) in the butt usually doesn't help.

This site is designed to help individuals and groups develop and use communicative options to reduce subtle forms of abuse. It is not about blame or punishment.